When my client Jane first started working with me, she felt stressed every minute of every day. She felt trapped by her life. Everything seemed out of her control, including her kids.  

In our work together, we discovered that Jane’s natural instinct was to try to keep the peace and be liked by others. This people-pleasing habit started in childhood and had been with her ever since. Unfortunately this meant that Jane always put herself last. 

When Jane realized that these old habits were the cause of her stress and overwhelm, she chose these new thoughts and got to work on believing them: 

💭I’m in charge and I can choose 

💭I’m the mom and I get to decide

💭It’s not my job to help everyone, fix everyone, or save anyone in any way

Jane started using these new thoughts before her interactions with her family, friends and even strangers. Seeing herself in a new way helped her stop people-pleasing and start doing what was best for her. 

By the end of our 6 months together, here’s what changed: 

⭐Jane felt confident and certain that she was doing a great job guiding her kids. 

⭐She realized that other people’s problems are none of her business, and that she didn’t need to fix anyone. 

⭐Jane’s stress level went from a 10/10 to a 3/10.

⭐She no longer felt caught up in other people’s emotions. She stopped worrying about what people think about her. 

Jane feels so much better, and the best part is that her new outlook and skills will last forever!  

PS If you’re ready to stop people pleasing and start putting yourself first (yes, I’m talking to you - especially if you’re shaking your head “yes” while also cringing). I can help you.  Set up a discovery call with me at the bottom of this page to meet with me about 1 on 1 coaching.

My client Whitney has a big deal job with a high profile company. She is a high achiever with lofty expectations for herself. When she returned from maternity leave after having her first baby, she was plagued with guilt. Every time daycare would send a picture of her (happy) baby, she would close her office door and cry.

Her recurring thought was “I should be home with my daughter.”

We investigated this thought together and discovered that while Whitney absolutely loves being a mom, she also loved her career and wanted to keep working.

Whitney’s growth was to accept who she truly is: a woman who loves being a mom and wants to work because she loves that, too.

Whitney practiced new thoughts that reminded her that she’s a great mom, with or without work:

💭My family is the most important thing to me and my actions show that.

💭I can always trust myself to make the right decision for me.

From here Whitney implemented boundaries that worked for her.

⭐She has dinner with her family almost every night of the week.

⭐On the rare occasion that she works late or meets girlfriends for dinner, she doesn’t feel guilty.

⭐She arrives at work and leaves at work on time, and models work/life balance to her team in an industry where that is uncommon.

Instead of feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and guilty, Whitney feels gratitude for her perfectly imperfect life.

Take it from Whitney - beating yourself up for what you “should” be just creates shame. Instead, figure out and embrace who YOU are and be the best version of that. I can help you do that.
 
PS Anytime a thought has a “should” in it, pay attention. They almost always come from society’s idea of what you "should" be doing. Usually they just create guilt and no action. ❤️

My client Tara was a BOSS in the corporate world. She liked her job and co-workers. But after 20+ years, she was less inspired by her work, tired of what it was taking to stay relevant and feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

Her husband traveled a lot for business and Tara had to coordinate her busy work schedule while taking on the primary parenting role with her kids. She wished for a life where she could have more free time to just be present with her kids and husband when he was home.

During our 6 months of coaching, Tara quit her job, finished training to become a coach, and started a business.

But even more than that, she learned to embrace the idea that life wasn’t happening TO her, and that she could create whatever kind of life she wanted to have. Two of her new thoughts are:

💭 I am creating the life that I want to have.

💭 This is right choice for me, and my family.

Next, she started taking action.

⭐She became friends with her fear and anxiety. Instead of waiting until something felt easy and good, she just learned to feel the fear and do it anyway.

⭐She stuck to her plan even when it felt scary.

⭐She started taking "walking dates" with her husband where they could walk and connect.

⭐She marketed her new business even when it felt uncomfortable. She got clients and started coaching them.

⭐She planned fun adventures with her kids that would have been impossible in her old life.

It worked! Tara created the life she wanted to have.

She and her family just returned from a 3 week trip to France - fulfilling a dream of joining her husband's work trips with family vacation time. She is enjoying her coaching work and loves helping her clients find careers that are more meaningful and aligned with their values. She is present with her kids, husband, and friends.

Do Tara's results sound like something you'd like to have? Set up a time for a complimentary discovery session with me.

My client Julia left her stable, draining “day job” because she wanted to become a real estate investor.

When we first started coaching, her goals were: have a job she loved, spend more time with her kids, have a flexible schedule, and to make time for herself - all while having fun and making lots of money.

Julia’s brain told her this was impossible. Together, we discovered that she had a long held belief that there’s never enough money to go around, and that money causes problems in relationships.

Over time, Julia worked on changing her thoughts to reflect her new beliefs. Her new beliefs are:

💸There’s always enough money to go around.

💸Money adds value to my life.

💸Money is always here for me.

Just changing her thoughts was huge, but Julia also had to “walk the walk."

We worked on creating habits to support the lifestyle Julia wanted to create.

⭐A morning routine to set the tone for the day.

⭐A flexible schedule, but with set rhythms and daily goals so that she can stay on track.

⭐Setting and sticking to boundaries. For example, she rarely checks work emails on the evenings or weekend anymore. She spends time with her kids every morning even on work days. She picks up her son from pre-school. She has scheduled babysitters and date nights with her husband.

⭐Julia now speaks kindly to herself. She takes care of her body with nightly jogs.

It worked! After 6 months working as a real estate investor, she's already earned as much as she made at her full time "day job" - but she only works 3 days a week. And she's just getting started!